Our generation is so obsessed with success.
Don’t get me wrong though, there is nothing wrong with wanting to excel in life and be the best, the issue comes about when this aspiration becomes manic such that you begin experiencing panic and there you are a young 20 something with unrealistic timelines by which you expect to have all your dreams fulfilled.
To add insult to injury (enters) Social Media.
You go on Twitter and half of your timeline is buying apartments at 19 years of age. Another quarter is starting businesses. Another 10 or so tweets are about people getting married or celebrating anniversaries. You get an impending sense of anxiety and leave the bird app and toggle to Instagram where people are traveling the world or “living the life”. By the way the people on Instagram at parties and such, kwani pandemic iliisha na hamtuambi?? You feel your anxiety choking up and you traverse Whatsapp,TikTok e.t.c and then you get hit with all sorts of crippling thoughts of:
“Why am I not good enough?”
“What do they have that I don’t?”
“How are they getting all these likes and follows and I am not?”
“By which means can I use to be at par with these people on my timeline?”
At the end of this train of thought, you alight feeling miserable and you begin resenting yourself and your life. The devil on your shoulder baits you with seemingly viable ways to get ahead and it is just downhill from there. On the way, you may develop mental health problems like BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder – a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw in appearance.) Moreover, this rush to success propagates the “get rich quick” mentality and as a nation, we wonder why ills like corruption and nepotism never end.
I cannot type this pretending that I haven’t been at that point where you feel like you are stuck in quicksand and life is just passing you by; I have been there but the day I let go of unrealistic expectations and also came to the realization that social media is just a mirage, let me tell you Maina, my life changed!
So chill! What you want is coming, what will be will be. As long as you still have breath in your body anything is possible. You can get that degree at 60 years old, you can buy your first car at 40, you can meet your soul mate at whatever time is best for your love to bud and bloom and you can get your own place at whatever time that is set for you. Be patient; your breakthrough is coming. Kuomoka utaomoka!
Meanwhile, manifest and work for what you want, clap for others without feeling jealous, and enjoy the journey. It is like wanting to go to Kisumu by road so fast that you don’t even notice the attractions along the way like Mt.Longonot and Lake Naivasha.
Yes, you will arrive but what more can you speak of your journey?